( Q & A )
SNS‑based romance scams and investment scams often start in ways that feel ordinary. These are the questions I’m most often asked, based on my own experience as a victim. If even one person can avoid the same mistake, that is why I’m sharing this.
Q1. What exactly is a romance scam?
A romance scam is when someone you meet on SNS or a matching app uses “trust” or “romantic feelings” to take your money.
In my case, it started on Facebook. We moved to LINE, exchanged messages every day, and I slowly began to trust the person. Then one day, the topic of money and investment appeared—very naturally.
Q2. Why didn’t you realize it was a scam?
This is the question victims ask themselves the most. I was the same.
Scams don’t start with suspicious behavior. They begin with normal conversations—daily life, work, family. I believed I was someone who would “never fall for a scam”.
But when you talk to someone every day, it becomes harder and harder to doubt them.
Q3. Which SNS platforms are used for these scams?
Almost all major platforms:
- X (formerly Twitter)
- Matching apps
If someone you don’t know suddenly messages you, it’s safer to slow down and be cautious— especially with accounts that emphasize appearance.
Q4. Was the investment app real?
In my case, the app was MT5—an actual, legitimate trading app. But the “broker” I was told to connect to was a fake site.
The app showed profits on the screen, so I believed it was real. I later learned that a real app doesn’t guarantee safety.
Q5. Are there common patterns in romance scams?
Looking back, yes. Several patterns overlapped:
- Claims of living overseas
- Introducing a “relative who knows investments”
- Offering special investment information
- Asking you to use a specific site or app
- Promising quick profits
- Slightly unnatural Japanese
When several of these appear together, it’s safer to be cautious.
Q6. What should I do if I think I’m being scammed?
Don’t deal with it alone.
On the day I was asked to send the final amount, I felt “something is wrong”, but I couldn’t stop myself. I still regret not talking more openly with my wife.
You can consult:
- Police
- Consumer Affairs Center
Keep all screenshots, messages, and transaction records.
Q7. Why are you writing this blog?
I lost part of the retirement savings I had built over many years. It was painful.
But if my experience can help someone else avoid the same situation, then sharing it has meaning.
Q8. Are romance scams only a problem for older people?
No. People of all ages have been victims.
However, older people are often targeted for their savings. I was one of them.
Q9. Is there a way to identify a scam?
There is no perfect method.
But be careful if:
- They talk about investment before meeting you
- They say they live overseas and cannot meet
- Money suddenly becomes the topic
- They claim to have “special information”
Q10. Is this story real?
Yes. Everything written here is based on my actual experience.
Q11. Why do you continue writing about it?
At the time, I couldn’t talk to anyone. I felt fear, regret, and guilt.
Writing helps me recover, and I hope it helps someone notice the danger earlier.
Q12. What should I do if I’ve already been scammed?
- Save all records
- Stop sending money
- Contact a trusted support service
Early action prevents further damage.
Q13. Where can I get help?
Public support services include:
- Consumer Affairs Center (188)
- Police Consultation (#9110)
Be careful with private “free consultation” services— some push expensive contracts.
Q14. Is my personal information safe?
I adjust details so individuals cannot be identified. Sensitive information is removed for privacy and safety.
If anything feels wrong, please talk to someone you trust.